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Eff Sh*t Up Friday – Not looking back

The patriarchy manifests itself as a shitty list of shoulds…as uncertainty with our partners when we speak our truth. It tells us to be quiet…to stop taking up space.

The patriarchy says demure…be quiet…HUSHHHHHHHHH. Don’t yell…smile. Don’t question what is happening…nothing is wrong.

I am guessing that like me, you have been getting a whole lotta emails about resolutions, looking back at 2017, and goal setting for 2018.

For the last three weeks I have been thinking about sinking into a shame spiral that I don’t have the kind of discipline to write a letter to 2018, that I am not going to manifest my dreams because my ability to engage in solid goal setting sucks.

And then in my usual way I said to myself, “fuck that shit, you are Dr. Melissa Bird, PhD and you can manifest like a BOSS!”

I am looking forward to 2018!!!

Fanning the Flames

My passion is my guiding star. In a few weeks I am going to Massachusetts to train a room full of women about lighting the fire within! Come join us, there are a few seats left!

Corvallis Changemakers Park Rally

I treasure and ponder the things in my heart. The weekend after that I am speaking in Corvallis, OR at the one year anniversary of the Women’s March! Come join me!


I am not afraid when I am tapped into my passion and my heart. In May, I am giving a plenary speech in Long Beach, CA at the National Association of Perinatal Social Workers about social justice advocacy in our new America. Details are here!

I am a revolutionary, joyful being who is deeply engaged in the resistance. If you are a class A introvert who doesn’t want to hang out in a room full of people but REALLY WANTS to engage in advocacy in the comfort of your own home check out this kick ass social justice online training Marginalized No More!

Fuck shit up by looking forward not back! Stir the pot by thinking REALLY REALLY big about your passion and what lights you up! Engage in acts of graceful revolution in your neighborhood!

I am so glad that you are part of my world. I look forward to connecting with more of you in 2018 here on the blog and on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram @birdgirl1001.

Thank you for being part of the Bird Girl Army in 2017. Thank you for resisting, persisting, and insisting on a better America.

It is Friday…fuck shit up y’all. Dr. Melissa Bird

P.S. If you are running for office check out this kick ass coaching and training program the Candidates Secret Weapon!

If you are ready to pull out the big guns in your life check out this kick ass 1:1 personal advocacy coaching program!

If you haven’t, sign up for my newsletter…it doesn’t suck!

Here is a little image of HOPE for you all because you read all the way through this blog post.

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